I received a marketing email from Dawson Church recently about his upcoming four-part video for raising one’s pleasure “set point.” As I read his email, I remembered Marci Shimoff’s books, Happy for No Reason and Love for No Reason. In those books, Ms. Shimoff commented on happiness and love “set points.” Because this is the third time I’ve encountered the term “set points,” I thought I better pay attention. But what are “set points?”
Think of your comfort zone in any area, e.g., ambient room temperature, relationships, personal space, finances, clothing trends, food portion sizes and quality, how much cash you are willing to spend on any giving object, etc. We generally have upper limits and lower limits that define our comfort zones.
To use Mr. Church’s example about temperature, you have an upper temperature limit in which you feel comfortable. After that upper limit is exceeded, you will make some kind of change to ease your discomfort, for example, by turning on the air conditioning, getting out of the direct sun, or taking off your coat.
The same is true for the lower limit of your temperature comfort zone. When the temperature drops to a level below that which you find comfortable, you will make a change. You might turn on the furnace, light a fire in the fireplace, or put on an extra sweater.
These set points vary from person to person. For example, my sister much prefers warm weather. She isn’t really comfortable until the outside temperature is 98.6 degrees. I prefer mild temperatures that don’t exceed a high of 80 degrees. The set points also change as we adapt to different conditions. I used to be averse to cold weather, having lived in San Diego for 28 years. So much so, that during the first year we lived in Denver, I lost 20 pounds trying to keep my body warm. Now that we live in the Colorado high country again, 50 degrees feels like “sweater weather!”
Ms. Shimoff also told us we have emotional set points. Whether it is happiness, love, recognition or appreciation, we have unconscious upper and lower limits and it’s only within those limits that we allow ourselves to experience any given emotion. If we want “X” experience, and “X” lies beyond our set points, we won’t allow ourselves, unconsciously, to experience it. However, we can change our limits. We can make conscious and consistent changes to expand the currently unconscious limits to eventually include “X.”
Did you know that we also have prosperity comfort zones? Our prosperity comfort zone, just like the others, have upper and lower limits that we allow ourselves to experience. It’s only when we exceed these limits that we actually make a change. Are you happy in your current prosperity comfort zone? Would you like to discover the upper and lower limits of that zone?
Try this little quiz.
Notice at what point you feel uncomfortable. (That uncomfortable feeling is your brain’s
hormones and neurotransmitters telling you that you’ve reached the upper or lower
limits you, at some point in your life, set for yourself.)
High Prosperity Set Point: (Notice at which point your body cringes and you say “no, not true” to yourself.)
1. You manage your money.
2. You are a good money manager.
3. You are a fantastic money manager.
4. You manage your finances so well, you have very little debt.
5. You manage your finances so well, you are debt-free and have a large nest egg saved.
6. Your financial portfolio is so large and diverse, you never have to worry about money again.
7. You are independently wealthy and enjoy supporting philanthropic efforts.
Low Prosperity Set Point: (Notice at which point your body flinches and you say, “That’s not true.” “No I don’t.”)
1. You have a little left over each month to put in savings.
2. You tend to live paycheck to paycheck.
3. You tend to spend just beyond what you earn monthly.
4. You pay the minimum payment on your debts each month.
5. You shuffle which debt payments to make each month because there isn’t enough income to cover it all.
6. You get loans to pay off credit card debt, then continue to use the credit cards to their maximum limits.
7. You file bankruptcy every few years to get out of paying back debts.
Let me know how you did identifying your set points in the comment box here.
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